Salaam, I’m Sara.
I believe that you can be Afghan and be yourself.
Reconnecting to your culture on your terms is the most transformative self-improvement process you can commit to.
More than therapy, education, or self-help books.
My joy and purpose in life is helping other Afghan diaspora women find our place in the world.
Embracing my heritage — even though I questioned my faith, am openly queer, am still learning the language, don’t know all the cultural norms (DON’T LIKE some of them), and in a million ways may be “doing it wrong” — has been the key to integration, confidence, and success.
Our culture is the source of our healing, and we have every right to claim it.
No matter how long it’s been, no matter the reason you found yourself cast out in the first place.
Whether they did it, you did it yourself, the outside world did it, or all three.
I’m here to remind you: Being Afghan is a gift.
You deserve to love yourself more than anyone else.
My dad is from Logar; my mom was from Kandahar. I was born and raised in Los Angeles, CA.
I grew up with loving parents and a close family. However, they didn’t know how to support my identity development as a queer, first-gen, eldest daughter. They were doing their best, but didn’t use words like anxiety, depression, microaggression, or trauma.
At home, I was the dutiful daughter, but I spoke a cultural language that was foreign to my family. Out in the world, I tried my best to fit in among my peers. No one had heard of Afghanistan. Sadly, I wanted to keep it that way.
But as the world turned its attention to us (and not in a good way) in the early 2000s, I felt a spotlight on me. Overnight, I was expected to be a spokesperson for my entire community. A community that I had turned my back on, and that I felt had turned its back on me.
I felt like an imposter in every setting I was in. It wasn’t until I fought to define my full identity for myself – embracing my heritage, my queerness, my faith, and my family – that I truly felt at home.
This is the lesson that I want to gift to all my diaspora sisters, and for the rest of the world to hear:
We get to define ourselves, and we’re doing it every day.