In many families, the big sisters had to be much more than just that. They were also…
What happens as a result of this?
You limit your own aspirations in order to put others first.
You overcompensate for a lost sense of self, forcing yourself to succeed academically, professionally, and socially.
You start competing with people you don’t even know, due to constant comparison from your parents.
You become a control-freak and don’t accept help from anyone. Hello, burnout!
I’m willing to bet that difficulty putting yourself first is at the root of your unhappiness.
I’m willing to bet that you have spent your life making others comfortable, and now you don’t know how to take up space.
I’m willing to bet that when it comes time to receive from others, you’re uncomfortable and push away any true connection.
Join the big sisters group to meet your kindred spirits and see what life is like in the real world.
My life’s work has been to support the emotional well-being of my communities.
Who are my communities? There are too many to name, but what might be important to you, is: I’m your friendly neighborhood openly bisexual, culturally Muslim, first-generation American big sister who was born and raised in Los Angeles to Afghan refugees.
I believe that creating safety among the types of people who have caused you harm will change your life.
You don’t need to forgive and forget. You don’t need to gain their approval. Just focus on regulating your nervous system wherever you go.
I know it hasn’t been easy.
The resentment, the determination, the demands without acknowledgement.
And the worst part? You know you should change it, but you don’t.
The secret is: Create your own confident, beautiful, and meaningful life. And then invite whomever you want to join you. If they can’t meet you there, it’s ok to let them go.’
We may come from different backgrounds, but our struggles due to the combination of cultural expectations, family dynamics, and societal pressures are one and the same.
As long as you can match up with the time zone while the group’s running, you’re more than welcome to join us, no matter where you call home.
To keep things cozy, we’re capping the group at a maximum of 8 participants per session.
So, what’s on the agenda for our weekly meet-ups?
These topics are just a starting point. My groups always take on a life of their own, but I will be there to hold space for us. And speaking of which…
Because this is the first run of this new group, I am offering it at a rate of $500.
This space is for you if you:
We choose you, and I’m proud of you for choosing you, too. You’ve got this!